Relationship Questions and Answers
Everybody has questions about relationships at some point in their lives. So many times I get the same question over and over again and find myself saying the same things.
To save yourself (and myself) a lot of time, here are the three most popular relationship questions along with my personal advice and answers.
How can I get (a certain girl or guy) to go out with me?
This is the most common question I hear from people of all ages — they want to know what they can do or say to “get” someone to form a relationship with them. Sometimes this means you’ve been on a couple of dates with a person and want to take the next step. Sometimes it means you want to get your foot in the door and start something new. Either way the answer is the same. To light a fire under a relationship you have to demonstrate your value in that person’s life. They need to think that their quality of life would be better if they were involved with you romantically. This could mean that you are a good lover, a strong friend — that you have a good job or that you can offer them something unique. Whatever it is about you that is good, you need to make that feature stand out and convince them they just can’t live without you.
What makes a relationship last?
I wish there was a simple answer to this nagging question. If you’re in a happy relationship, it is only natural to want to DO something to make sure that it will last. The problem is, you just can’t flip a switch and make your relationship strong and lasting. I can offer you a few hints to keep the love in your relationship — honesty, respect, and attention. If you stay honest with a lover, respect them and their property and space, and pay close attention to them and what they’re saying a little bit everyday, you are way more likely to have a lasting friendship and romance.
How can I keep sex exciting?
This is sometimes a sub-question of the one about making a relationship last. Sex is so important to successful relationships — it is the physical intimacy between two people that glues them together. After a certain amount of time something about our bodies or our brains turns sex into a boring chore. This doesn’t happen to everyone, but those of us who it has happened to can attest that it is terrible and will quickly lead to a breakup. The best part about avoiding this boring sexual routine is that you can have a ton of fun while you save the relationship at the same time. Try new things, sexually — new positions, new toys, romantic vacations. Keep it fresh and the two of you will stay hot for each other like a couple of teenagers.
It is natural to have relationship questions. If your question is more complicated than any of the above, it is also natural to seek answers for those questions. Just make sure the person whose advice you seek is trustworthy and has the experience to help you.
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My boyfriend still keeps momentos and cards and a four year plan from his last girlfriend whom he buggared his best friend over (she was his ex) and I can’t get that out of my head.
He can’t tell me how Im different or better than her. Why does he keep things if he’s truly over her? I don’t keep anything from my exboyfriends and I’m sick of him not making me feel definitely like the one even though he says I am.
Is it bad I’m thinking about this type if things? I thought it was normal.
I can’t stand the thought of me living in the same room as his love letters and memories from her. How can I tell him even though he doesn’t know I’ve seen them and I know he’ll get offended that it worries me.
I want to feel different and more important than her if were to build a life together of marriage and kids.
Help please!!
I have been engaged to my boyfriend for 8 years but after he asked me to marry him we never talked about getting married. When I tell him that it upsets me and I feel like we will never be married he says that we will someday. His excuse for not having married me yet is because he said we can’t afford it and that he is afraid that he will lose his state health insurance for him and his two kids. I am very much in love with this man and his two daughters that I have been helping him raise for the past ten years because his ex wife is too into her drugs to be a mom to any of her 4 children. I have even helped raise his ex wife’s two kids that are not his. I don’t know what else I have to do to get this man to marry me. I’m 35 and I’m so ready. I know he loves me but why won’t he marry me? Should I just be happy that I’m in a happy loving relationship, or should I tell him we either make a date or I’m gone? Help!!!!!
I think all that you are doing for him is a little too much. You helping him raise kids and make him happy and he can’t marry you? Girl, you should tell him either he marry you are you leave him. You are not getting any young.