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How to Be More Attractive to the Opposite SexHow to Be More Attractive to the Opposite Sex We’ve all been there before — the dreaded “friend zone”. So many times in our lives we find ourselves drawn to a member of the opposite sex only to find out that they just want to be friends. What this really means, unfortunately, is that you aren’t attractive enough to that person for them to consider dating you. This is a hard fact of life, but the sooner you accept it, the sooner you can be on your way to being more attractive to the opposite sex. Let’s face it, some people are born naturally attractive. This doesn’t just mean that women go crazy for them or men drop everything when they walk in the room — it means they attract attention from all walks of life. There’s something about attractive people that is downright magnetic. These people are usually funny, charismatic, and they smell good. True attraction is a complicated cocktail of physical appeal, sex appeal, friendship, and that elusive quality known as “the spark”. If you’re ready to climb your way out of the friend zone and into the hearts and minds of the opposite sex, you’re going to have to do some work on your attractiveness. 1. Get in shape. I know I just got finished telling you that attractiveness is not about the way you look physically, but a good start to amping up your attraction level is to be in shape. You don’t need six pack abs and ripped arms (in fact, many people don’t like an overly muscle bound partner) but if you have a genuine desire to attract the opposite sex, being in good enough shape to dance all night long or go on a long job with them won’t hurt. Being in shape means being fit and healthy, both physically and emotionally. When you are fit, you are psychologically prepared to attract people. 2. Engage with the opposite sex in meaningful conversation. That means listening to people and appearing to be genuinely interested in what they have to say. Anyone can fake interest in a conversation by nodding their head and saying “mm, yes” a few times — but to be attractive to the other gender you need to spend whatever time and effort it takes to get over yourself and become willing to listen. People are drawn to people who seem interested in what they have to say, not people who want to talk about themselves non-stop. There’s a difference between giving a lecture and having a chat. Being opinionated is fine, but only listening to your own opinions (and falling in love with the sound of your own voice) is downright ugly. 3. Take care of your personal hygiene. Once again we’re in the realm of the physical here, but how many people want to spend time around someone with bad hygiene? You can be a “perfect 10″ on the outside, but if you don’t take care of your breath or your body odor, you could look like Brad Pitt and still be unattractive to many people. Bad smells can be a real romance killer, so your hygiene tools like hot water, soap, shampoo, and toothpaste are your best friends in the fight to become more attractive. 4. Get control of your bad temper. Mean and angry people are ugly to the opposite sex. Rather than attracting people to them, they push people away. There’s simply nothing sexy about anger, so if you find yourself relegated to the corner at social functions it may be because of your loud rants and nasty attitude. 5. Learn how to relax and have fun. You could be the ugliest guy or gal on Earth, but if you know how to laugh and enjoy yourself you’re going to start attracting people. Laughter is a powerful aphrodisiac that breaks down people’s barriers and lets them see the real you, on the inside. Have you ever noticed that people who laugh are more fun to be around? Become one of those people to increase your sex appeal. 6. Optimism goes a long way in attracting the opposite sex. There’s a difference between blind optimism and being practically optimistic. You need to keep your wits about yourself, but don’t venture too far into “poor me” territory. You can choose to see the world as a dark and dreary torture chamber or you can pick out the exciting possibilities afforded us by our wonderful planet. It is all really a matter of perspective. Being an optimist means focusing on the good things and letting the bad things sink to the back of our minds. 7. Become a humble person. Believe it or not, a person’s ability to laugh at themselves is incredibly attractive to the opposite sex. Haughty people appear shrewd and ugly while people with humble souls draw others toward them. 8. Take a spiritual journey. This tactic won’t work for everyone, and don’t fake spirituality if you don’t really have it or want it. The fact is that people with a spiritual side tend to have all the qualities on this list and then some. Spirituality makes you optimistic, relaxes you, encourages conversation and empathy, and (admittedly) makes you seem a little smarter than people without a spiritual life. Different people find different religion help them become more centered, more insightful and conversational and just generally happier. The dangerous part of taking a spiritual journey to increase your attractiveness is appearing to be a faker. If spiritualism isn’t for you, you can attain this level of attraction by reading philosophy or classic literature. Whatever it takes to get you outside of yourself even if just for a moment. 9. Fake confidence. There is arrogance, then there is something called “quiet confidence”. One is attractive, the other is disgusting. Confidence comes from having faith that you ARE attractive and it is just a matter of time before some hottie realizes it. 10. Be kind, and act on your newfound kindness. If you are generous and help others, people will see your selflessness and be attracted to it. There’s nothing like random kindness to ignite a spark between you and a stranger. Being attractive to the opposite sex is not all about having “perfect 10″ model good looks. If that were the case, hardly anyone would ever hook up with anyone else. Attraction is a difficult mixture to get right, but using the steps outlined above you should be able to kick start your sex appeal in the eyes of the opposite gender and start having luck in love again. This doesn’t mean you’ll never end up in the friend zone again, but your time there will be less like an extended stay and more like a short vacation. Leave a Reply |
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