Flirting Techniques for Women
When a man flirts, it is easy to pick up on — he usually comes out and compliments a woman or makes another obvious sign — but the subtle flirting techniques employed by females are much more difficult to interpret. Here are five things women do that generally mean she’s flirting. The trick is to figure out whether the flirt is aimed at you or the guy next to you.
- Making physical contact with herself — Don’t get too excited, guys. We’re talking about subtle gestures that she may not even know she is doing. If you’re talking to a woman and you see her tugging a little on her hair, pushing her hair back to reveal a smile, or rubbing her hands together you may be in the middle of a serious flirting episode. Remember that not every single time a woman touches herself indicates a time that she’s trying to draw your attention or flirt with you. But if you see a pattern of this kind of behavior, the woman is probably flirting, and she may not even know it. The power of touch is subtle, and women are all about subtlety and gentle flirting. Watch for a woman touching her body absent-mindedly when she talks to you, and you’ve found a flirt.
- Making physical contact with you — Again, guys, remember that not every woman that touches you is trying to start something romantic with you. We keep talking about subtlety, so you’re going to have to dig a bit deeper than that handshake you got from the hot girl at the bar. If a woman touches your arm or your shoulder and leaves the touch there for longer than a few seconds, it is probably a subtle indicator that she’s interested in you. Obviously, if she wants to touch you, she wants to get to know more about you. Another sign of physical intimacy is when a woman draws closer to you in a conversation. If a woman is zoning in on your words and watching your mouth when you talk, this is another sign that she wants to connect. Get ready for some serious flirting.
- Making eye contact — This is the easiest female flirting technique to blow out of proportion and the one that gets most of us guys off track. Every day we make casual eye contact with people, sometimes without even knowing it. Not every woman who locks eyes with you on the subway wants to flirt with you. If, however, you’re talking to a woman casually and she locks eyes with you for longer than usual (and especially if she then quickly breaks the contact, looking down or embarrassedly to the side) this means she’s interested in you. Even better, the eye contact is a very physical form of flirting and you can communicate a ton of information between the two of you just with your eyes. Narrowing eyes at one another, and looking for dilated pupils when maintaining eye contact are just two of the ways you can better interpret the flirting techniques of women.
- Showing a little skin — This is one of the more obvious signs that a woman is flirting with you, and one that not all women will do. But if you see a woman you’re attempting to flirt with do something to reveal a bit more skin, you know you’re in luck. An example — I was recently at a party having a conversation with a beautiful woman right next to the stereo. She kept bending in to talk louder so we could hear each other, and when I finally bent to turn the stereo down, I caught her unpopping a button on the way up. She was trying to reveal more cleavage! This is a not so subtle way of showing a guy her assets, and communicating to him that she wants him to see more of her body.
- Drawing attention to her mouth — The mouth, for various reasons, is one of the sexiest parts of the body. The mouth is a beautiful vibrant color, it is the seat of both the tongue and of a person’s words, and the mouth is a very sexual organ, used during many sexual activities and somewhat resembling a female’s genitalia. Let’s face it — the mouth is where it’s at in terms of flirting. If a woman is really into you, you may catch her licking her lips, parting her lips slightly, or even applying lipstick or lip gloss to attract your attention to her sexy mouth. It usually works.
Remember that not all of a female’ physical behavior is meant for flirting. Give women the respect they deserve by treating their behavior the way you would a casual friend’s — until you see the signs of female flirting techniques that are a dead giveaway. Once you know a woman is flirting with you, the rest of the work is up to you.
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Be approachable, not only in attitude, but literally. Men don’t want to (and often won’t) come over to you and your girlfriends. When you’re out with your friends, find a reason to move about alone, i.e., walk past him to get a drink from the bar, or take the long way to the bathroom. When you do, look your best of course, i.e., hold your stomach in, arch your back so your chest pushes out, keep your head high and let your hips sway sexily.
or, just flash your cooter