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How to Improve Your Sex LifeHow to Improve Your Sex Life Whether you and your partner have been together for years and need a new spark to keep sex exciting or you want to improve your sexual experience with a new lover, there are myriad ways to increase the closeness and sense of pleasure that comes from sex. Play Music Besides having the power to “soothe the savage breast”, music is proven to aid people when it comes to sex. Music gets under our skin and reminds us of a time in our lives when we were more virile, younger, in love, and all sorts of other heady emotions that translate into bedroom success. The physical act of sex is aided by the rhythm of music — rhythm affects us internally on a psychological level and helps couples to be in tune with each other’s sexual timing. Let’s not forget that music is the easiest way to “set the mood”, particularly romantic music or even just your favorite oldies tunes. If rhythmic music isn’t your thing, peaceful sounds like relaxing meditation music sparks a calm and sensual atmosphere that is the perfect preparation for sex. Communicate We hear it all the time — communication is vital to a happy relationship. It is no different in the bedroom. Talking to your partner means the difference between going through the motions during sex and actually attempting to share your passion with your lover. One quick way to introduce communication during sex is to lie in the nude with your partner and “teach” them what you like simply with words, no hands involved. Communication is one aspect of a happy sexual relationship that you can’t ever give up on. You should see results from this kind of communication almost immediately. Play games with your partner We’re not just talking about games in the bedroom, although introducing play to your sexual repertoire is a good idea as well. The simple act of playing a game of cards or a board game with your sexual partner introduces things like communication and cooperation without having to talk about them overtly. There are also “sex games” for sale that help to stimulate you and your partner’s sexual appetite. You may be ashamed at first to play games of a sexual nature, but once you and your partner discover the arousing (and fun) nature of these games, you won’t have to ask twice to play again. Nervous tension in the bedroom is easy to solve with the addition of a little competitive spirit. Creativity is the name of the “game”, and you can turn a normal game of dominoes or cards into sexual foreplay. Self-stimulation It is time to talk about everyone’s favorite taboo topic — masturbation. Women espcially need to know how their bodies work toward orgasm, though learning the different ways your body responds to touch is good for men as well. The old adage rings true — if you can’t make yourself have an orgasm, how can anyone else do it for you? Masturbation teaches us how we enjoy stimulation, and usually helps us to teach our partners the proper way to touch and stimulate us. This is the definition of “foreplay”, that aspect of sex that many couples find they lack. Instead of moving straight to the bedroom for intercourse, let your partner show you the little ways they like to be touched and help them do the same for you. Take a deep breath Proper breath support is a big part of erotic sensation. Some people find that deep breathing alone stimulates them for sexual contact. You and your partner can concentrate on taking deep breaths during the sexual act, feeling the energetic rush of a deep breath at your most intimate moments. Share your fantasies This is especially important early in a new sexual partnership — you need to make it a point to share a particular fantasy with your partner. Some fantasies are just that — imaginative and naughty ideas that may never make it off the ground. Instead of telling your partner about unrealistic sexual fantasies, share one that you think can actually be fulfilled. Sharing fantasies is a partner’s game. You should be willing to listen and participate in your partner’s fantasy as much as they are into your own. If you are embarassed about your fantasy, start by explaining the circumstances that led to it in the first place. Wear sexy clothes Too many times, couples get into a sexual routine because of familiarity. If you find you and your partner are bored with one another, consider dressing up in the bedroom. As with all of these sexual improvement tactics, you may feel silly or out of place at first, but you should start by thinking back to the way you dressed when you and your lover first hooked up. There’s no single aspect of sex that is easier to improve than your clothing, and you don’t have to wear something outrageously erotic. A sexy dress or a new suit can mean all the difference between the sheets. Your partner will see that you’re making an effort to “sex up” your relationship, and this willingness on your part to contribute to a healthy sex environment is almost as important as the sex itself. Have a massage party with your lover Getting in the mood is half the battle. Physical contact, like the kind you get from massage, is hardwired into our bodies — it turns us on. Start your massage normally, rubbing the back and shoulders gently. Combine this type of massage with gentle music and work your way down into the less common “erotic” zones of the body. The back of the legs is a surprisingly sexy location for massage, and it easily leads to touching other parts of the body. If you like, there are limitless numbers of erotic oils and aromatherapy products to enhance an intimate massage. Massage calms the body naturally and lets erotic feelings come out organically. Try new sexual positions Last but not least, you should consider mixing up your sexual activity. Routine kills sex faster than anything else, but luckily there are thousands of books and advice on different sexual positions. Finding something new to try together is always sexually exciting, especially when that something new happens in the bedroom. Forget about finding “the best” position for orgasm and concentrate on the new feelings that new sexual positions bring. Want to bond and be more intimate with your partner? Try out a few new sexual positions. You don’t’ need pills, powders, creams, or counselling to boost your sex life. Any one of the above tactics will increase the spice level of your romance without the need for expensive sexual aids. 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