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How to End a Relationship With a Woman
If you know it is time to end a relationship with a woman, you have many things to think about. As with the end of any relationship, you want to do a little work ahead of time to prepare for the big event. If you’re ready to end a relationship with a woman, take these steps to prepare yourself.
- Spend some time thinking about the relationship. No doubt you’ve already taken this step, since you’ve decided to end the relationship, but it is important to spend a good amount of time thinking about what went wrong, how BOTH of you could have behaved differently, and why it is important that this relationship ends now. You don’t want your brain trying to fool you out of this bad relationship, and giving yourself time to realize just how bad it is and why it needs to change is the first step towards repairing yourself and the person you’re breaking up with.
- Make a list of reasons why the relationship didn’t work. This will further cement why the relationship needs to end as well as help you explain yourself to the person you’re breaking up with. A concrete list of reasons why the two of you shouldn’t “be together” will answer a lot of the tough questions you and your partner will be facing, and should get you even more prepared to do the dumping.
- Think of possible outcomes of the breakup. This is a safeguard for yourself. Think of what may happen after you end a relationship. Will the person you break up with become angry and argumentative? Do you think you can settle your differences and remain friends? Listing the possible downsides (and upsides) of a breakup is like wearing body armor — you don’t know if you’ll need this information, but it can’t hurt to have it around.
- Talk to a friend, and “practice” the breakup. Find someone close to you that you don’t mind opening up to and practice your “breakup” routine. At this point, you should keep your “paperwork” with you — the lists of reasons why the breakup is necessary as well as any writing you’ve done to prepare for the breakup itself. Go ahead and use the Cliffs Notes version, and do some “role playing” with your trusted friend.
- Setup and perform the breakup routine you practiced. This means you’ve got to get the breakup done. Call the women you’re in a relationship with and setup a date or a time to meet. Most likely, she knows what’s coming. Women often see problems in a relationship before men do. You want to meet in a private place — your apartment or hers is best — so that no one is embarrassed. Sit down with the women you’re about to break up with, and talk about why your relationship has failed.
- Take stock of your relationship with your ex. Once the actual “breakup” has been performed, there’s no going back. Do not let your ex cut “deals” (“If you don’t break up with me I’ll do ___”) or try to talk you out of your decision. Use your list of reasons why the relationship isn’t working for you as your best ammo. The two of you can decide what happens next. If you want to keep up a friendly relationship with this person, let her know that, but be prepared for a negative initial response.
Like the song says, “Breaking up is hard to do.” Use these steps and you’ll be prepared for the best and worst case post breakup scenarios.
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